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Addiction And Sex-Help With Sexual Addictions

It's possible to become addicted to anything.  Possibly the easiest addiction to develop is sexual.  That's because we have biological drives to enjoy sexual's wrong with it?  Addiction is an abnormal use of our sex drive.  We twist it to apply to pictures, strangers, imaginations, children, even animals.  We twist the normal behavior into something bizarre, using mechanical devices, bondage, torture, choking, etc.  For more information and detail, see these recent top-selling books about pornography and sexual addiction.  Nothing is wrong with normal sexual activity as it was designed for us.  I may sound like an old fuddy-duddy, but we're designed for sexual relations between one man and one woman for life.  The further we get from this, the more problems we have.  As quaint as I sound, I'm a sex addict.  If you're suffering from a sexual or pornography addiction, I know what you're going through...not from some book...from my own struggle.  Also, see our article series, Pornography Addiction-Who Is Hurt?, Pornography-An Addiction? and Pornography Addiction Recovery.

Sex Addiction Symptoms:  We're increasingly unsatisfied and drawn into more unusual and risky behavior.  One city got so out-of-control about 4,000 years ago that, when a guy named Lot had some male visitors, his neighbors stormed his house and tried to force his guests to have sex with them.  You may not want to do group rape, but if you need some new style or person to get satisfaction, you may have a sexual addiction.  Visit our page Signs Of Sexual Addiction to quiz and get a better idea of the symptoms of sex and porn addictions.

Effects Of Sex and Porn Addiction:  If we take this situation lightly and do nothing about it, risk much.  Our sex drive can take over.  I have a friend who lost his job as pastor of 3 churches because he used his positions to curry sexual favors from women in the congregation.  At the last one, thanks to an associate helping him hide his problem, he had as many as 7 women servicing him.  He couldn't lead his staff or run his church...he was too distracted by the one thing that interested him.  Needless to say, when it all hit the fan, he was removed from ministry.  CEO's have lost everything.  Bill Clinton, because of sexual addiction, was the only US President ever to be impeached.  Because of his very public denial about oral sex, 10-14 year old little girls are routinely expected to perform this for their classmates.  Our addictions have lasting effects on those around us.

Our spouses begin to feel inadequate or uninteresting as our appetites grow.  Our children begin to believe that sex is the most important thing in life, thanks to our example.  Maybe we get sexually transmitted disease and pass it on to our spouse.  How many families have been ruined by sexual addictions?  This behavior is not private because it leaves others broken and devastated in our selfish drive for a new experience.

Help and Solutions for Sexual Addictions:  This brings us to the solutions.  First, we have to understand the addiction cycle.  Our addiction started with a feeling of emptiness, low self esteem.  In our adolescent years, we discovered we can temporarily displace those feelings by sexual behavior.  Too soon, the emptiness is back with a load of guilt for our sexual misconduct, making us even more desperate for the sexual "drug".  We cycle ourselves toward ever deepening self-loathing as our sexual behavior becomes more and more wrong and harmful to others.  It's no accident that I included pedophilia in the list of sexual addiction signs.  That's what many sexual addictions escalate into until you are forcibly stopped by arrest or worse.

Left to ourselves, we cannot stop this cycle.  We can go to therapy, get prescriptions, but the sex drive is still there, along with the twisted imaginations and desires we've attached to it.  We can control it for a time by sheer will, but eventually, the stress of our sex drive and the stresses of life will demand a release.  This is why so many believe there is no cure to some expressions of sexual addiction.  I don't agree!  Yes, I'm still tempted with the mental pictures.  I always will be.  But, I have the ability to chase those images away.  I no longer have to express those thoughts with actions.  Just like any addiction, it's still very much one day at a time, but I can do one day!  Sex Addicts Anonymous has found the answer...what can fill the void in us that drove us to addiction in the first place.  It isn't the 12 steps or the meetings...all that is just to lead us to the real help...God...the only higher power capable of understanding and helping us control the sex drive He designed.  God is who I run to for help with my addiction.  If you want God's help, click on God help me.

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