Relationship Problem Advice-Triangulation

Relationship Problem Advice-Triangulation provides a valuable tool to target the source of relationship problems and find the right solutions. This is especially valuable for people who have the same problems with different people.

Relationship Problem Advice-Triangulation

Show me someone who doesn't have relationship problems and I'll show you someone who doesn't have relationships. Problems are a natural part of relationships because people are involved, and people...aren't perfect. When we encounter a problem, how do we decide where it came from, so we can resolve it? That's what relationship triangulation is all about!

Where Did The Relationship Problem Start?

Many of us go through life just like children, saying, "He started it!" Think back through all your recent arguments. Were there any in which you felt you were wrong? That's the nature of argument, isn't it? We're right and they're wrong! Problem is, that's what they think, too. So, a mature person will admit the possibility of being wrong. Oh no! I don't mean you're wrong...maybe you were right but didn't express your rightness right. So, now where do we stand? Despite the fact it always feels like the other person is at fault, you could be the source of the problem or they could. How do you figure out which? That's where triangulation comes in!

Triangulation Targets Relationship Problems:

We learned about triangulation during Gulf War I, where "smart weapons" were guided using three points (triangle corners) to bring the payload to the precise target. The three points were the target, the shooter, and a third point away from the target and shooter. The weapon uses this triangle to adjust it's flight and hit the target. Now, don't get ahead of me, this doesn't mean you can solve the problem with your spouse or friend by bombing them.

Relationship triangulation can target the source of the problem using three points: yourself, the one with whom you have a problem, and a third person. Though the problem never feels like you're the cause, using triangulation and honesty, you can easily rule yourself in or out. If you find yourself having the same kind of problem with more than one person, then you can triangulate back to yourself as a cause. This doesn't mean that they aren't wrong, just that a significant part of the relationship problem rests with you. Now you have a way, other than people pointing fingers, to figure out if you're aggravating the problem, but here's the big part...you also can know objectively when you're not. Just think back over previous relationship problems with others and look for similarities. If you find them, this is invaluable in helping you fix the things that need fixing in you, in order to prevent future problems. And, after all, you're the only one you can fix.

Advice If You're Part Of The Problem:

Once you've identified two or more people you have the same problem with, triangulation is a powerful tool to determine just what causes you to react to these people that way. That's because you have more than one incident to look at. What is it they did or said that triggered your negative emotions? What memories come up from your past when those emotions are triggered? As you think about these things, you may just hit on the one event that is causing the emotional problem every time someone behaves similarly. For example, because I was abused as a child, I get very angry every time someone seems to pressure or manipulate me. Knowing this, I can often head off my anger if someone I love just wants something strongly.

Advice If You're Not Part Of The Problem:

Triangulation is very powerful in determining you're not part of the problem, too, saving you the wasted effort of trying to fix something in yourself that's broken in someone else. This is very liberating! Those who are just passing through your life can be dismissed as having a bad day. For those who are important to you, knowing the problem originates with them keeps you from being defensive and provides valuable insight into accommodating their needs and helping them to find peace.

So many times, when we're faced with a relationship problem, we're left with just being angry and staying away until we cool off. Now, the problem becomes a valuable tool in self-improvement, problem solution and problem prevention. Whether triangulation reveals the cause is with you or another, the above advice gives you real options other than relationship separation or sweeping things under the rug.

I want you to know there is someone who can help when the problems seem too big and too complicated to analyze. That someone who loves you and wants only the best for you is God. If you want help from God or a relationship with him, just click on Help Me God.

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Relationship Problem Advice-Triangulation

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Relationship Problem Advice-Triangulation provides a valuable tool to target the source of relationship problems and find the right solutions. This is especially valuable for people who have the same problems with different people.